We use a lot of different ways to measure our lives. I suppose the most basic is our birthday. Each year marks not only a passage through time, but also (in theory at least) a season of growth and added maturity. That’s why those pesky zero years can be so intimidating. I am staring at the BIG 6-0 at the end of this year, so I know all about that one.
We measure our lives through school, jobs, promotions, births, deaths, moves, and other major changes. Each one becomes a mile stone along the path as we move through life.
I want to suggest a measurement that I think most of us use, but just don’t think about very often. It’s part of many of the other markers, yet stands alone. Sometimes it’s the result of good, even great, things that happen in our lives. Other times it’s the exact opposite as it stems from death or failure or catastrophe. Regardless of its roots, this measurement marks the way, and isn’t effected at all by what gives it birth.
I speak of starting over. Life is constantly giving us opportunities to begin again, in ways both great and small. Thus the tradition of New Years Resolutions. When you think about your progression through life from the vantage point of starting over, you can see an almost endless string of opportunities to begin again.
When you first go to school, you start over. When you move from the lower grades to higher ones, you start over. When you graduate from High School and enter college, once again you are starting over. No one in college is much impressed by your little High School achievements. When you enter the work force once again you start over. Straight A’s don’t mean a thing in the work world.
Marriage is starting over. Each child born a chance to begin again. Every new job you take, town you live in, church you attend, ministry you get involved with; all offer you that wonderful gift of a new beginning. When loved ones die, part of you at the very least has to start over. When you are fired, or rejected by those you love, or are stabbed in the back by trusted coworkers and are disgraced, you too have a chance to start over.
There’s one absolutely vital fact you must remember about all these chances. they are morally and spiritually neutral. They are forks in the road, nothing more. You can chose to become worse as easily as chose to become better. In fact, choosing to become worse is almost always easier in the short term.
Why do you think the world is filled with so many bitter people? It’s the cheap and easy way to respond to death and betrayal. Easy that is until it ruins your life, soul and all your remaining relationships. And even in that moment, when you realize what a fool you’ve been and how you’ve poisoned both yourself and everyone around you; God offers you yet another chance to begin again.
The real challenge isn’t to start over, but to start over in a way that makes you more like Jesus then you were before. When you do that, in even the smallest measure, then you know you’ve done the right thing, and are in fact a true success.